WHAT MEN REALLY WANT IN A WOMAN?

Have you ever felt like you couldn’t go out on a date until you lost 10 pounds? Have you ever looked in your closet and thought “I don’t have anything to wear on a date?’” Or maybe you thought, if only I was prettier, smarter or more successful then I could attract my ideal man.

After spending years coaching women in the area of dating I realize women need to know what men really want in a woman. And this information is going to make your life so much easier. And save you a fortune!

What do you think the qualities men are looking for in a woman? They might not be what you think. Would you vote for: attractive, s*xy, successful, beautiful body, well educated, good family?

If you guessed any of those you’re partly right, but they’re only secondary.

The Qualities Men Want In A Woman

The more important qualities men want are:

POSITIVE, fun, independent, sense of humor, SELF-CONFIDENT, playful, not making him wrong or judging him, easy-going, willing to go out without make-up – in other words not spending an hour getting ready to go to a baseball game - oh yes, you’ll go to a baseball game with him, NOT CRITICIZING YOURSELF or YOUR BODY.

Let me say that again, men like women who don’t ever criticize their body. Not once, not ever. You want to lose a man to another woman or his favorite sport, criticize him or yourself. Either way, he’s gone.

One of the most appealing things to a man is a woman who knows her worth. That is like a magnet for a man.

Men want you to get along with their families – when they get along with them.

They want you to support them in their jobs with their bosses, co-workers and employees. They do want you to wear make-up and high heels to company events and spend an hour getting ready.

And most men like to make more money than the woman they are with, and that’s not always the case. They don’t need to know how much money you have or don’t have.

Men like a little challenge, especially when it comes to being physically intimate. So whatever you do, make them earn this special privilege. Don’t give it away to any man. There aren’t any real rules, but trust yourself. If you think you know this is a good man, and you think you can keep an open mind, go ahead. But if you know that like many women your objectivity gets thrown out the window if you go down that path, then wait.

Most men don’t want you calling them or asking them out. So don’t call them. Believe me they’ll complain if they do want you to call them. And if they ask you to call, do it infrequently.

Don’t go overboard for them in the beginning – like cooking a three-course meal for them on the 2nd date. They’ll think you’re “desperate.” If you feel desperate, then do some therapy or coaching to get free of the ego that is creating a fear-based consciousness and a lack of trust that the right man will come along when you’re ready.

A Process to Help You Get Ready

If you want some help getting ready for your ideal partner there is a great book to help with that process: “Ask And It’s Given” by Abraham-Hicks. One of my clients today reminded me of a game in the book - “wouldn’t it be nice if” game.

So “wouldn’t it be nice if I met a wonderful man who loved me just the way I am.” “Wouldn’t it be nice if I realized how wonderful I am and lived from that place every day.” “Wouldn’t it be nice if I find the most spectacular partner who adores me in the same way I adore him.”

What you’re doing is creating a vibrational match to what you want. Begin with the “wouldn’t it be nice” add your own words and then let yourself daydream about it.

The way I coach is I combine the spiritual with the practical. Today I started with the practical. Because if a man were playing the “wouldn’t it be nice” game he would list the important qualities I wrote at the beginning of the article.

Being POSITIVE, not calling him, criticizing him or yourself, being easy and independent, etc. – these are things men are looking for in women. There are a lot of great men out there. Good men who are tired of being lumped together with bad guys. Good men who are tired of jaded women.

So they might be thinking wouldn’t it be nice to meet a woman who appreciates me, sees that I’m a good guy and has a fresh, healthy outlook on life. It would be nice for them. And there are many, many women out there who aren’t jaded or guarded.

So start with the practical, then bring in the spiritual and play the “wouldn’t it be nice” game for yourself.

Attract to you what you want. Trust that it will come to you. It always does, if you don’t block it or doubt it. Be a magnet for a good man, who will so appreciate you. Focus on being positive, having your own life, friends and interests, take good care of yourself physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.

Wouldn’t it be nice if you realized how precious you are and that you don’t need all the external “trappings?” You just need to know your worth as a woman – that is the single most appealing quality to a man.

Choose to believe, choose to be positive, choose to value yourself and your body, choose to adore him. Choose to say yes to loving, healthy and joyful relationships.

Imagine the possibilities….

© Carol Chanel

I referenced two important yet very different books for this article. The first was the very entertaining, yet highly practical and useful book “Why Men Love Bitches” by Sherry Argov. The subtitle is “From Doormat to DreamGirl – A Woman’s Guide To Holding Her Own in a Relationship.”

The second book that is extremely valuable combining the spiritual and the practical “Ask And It’s Given” by Abraham-Hicks. The subtitle is “Learning to Manifest Your Desires.”

So use the first book to help you understand what men want and use the second book to get clear on what you want and then attract it to you.

I teach people to overcome the obstacles that keep them stuck yet longing for romantic relationships, more self-confidence and inspiration to accomplish their dreams.

We sometimes forget what it feels like to live from our hearts and souls. We forget the thrill of taking the brakes off and flying. Life is dull if we just live from our minds.

Are you - or someone you know - settling, for less than exciting, either in relationships or a career?

Call me. You don't have to be stuck! And once you are unstuck you can be joyful and free again!

If you would like to explore working with me, please call me at 310-998-8860.

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Carol Chanel
Certified Life Coach
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mailto: carolchanel@verizon.net
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