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IS
IT GOING TO WORK OUT WITH THIS PERSON?
This is a question we
all ask at the beginning of any type of relationship.
We want to have a rockin’
relationship, we want to be wild and free. And
sometimes that just isn’t possible.
And we can find that
out sooner rather than later. Before a lot of
heartbreak, drama and financial problems.
People tell us who they
are at the beginning of a relationship.
What do they tell us?
A lot. They tell us about their fears, their loves,
their attitudes and their values; whether they
thrive on desire, success or pride; if they are
they filled with self-love; and where they are
on the consciousness scale.
Let’s review the
levels of consciousness in David Hawkins’
book, “Power vs. Force.” They start
with shame at 20 and go to 1000 for total enlightenment.
To really change and grow, a person has to be
at 200, the level of courage.
Suppose you’ve
met someone who isn’t at your level of consciousness.
At first you don’t realize it. Then maybe
you hear or see something that doesn’t feel
right, but you’re not sure so you turn away
from it.
The truth is,
there were things that triggered something in
your mind but you might have chosen not to listen.
Why not?
Maybe you liked this
person and you thought that if you paid attention
to the comment or idea then it meant you couldn’t
be around them. You no doubt saw some wonderful
qualities in the person and didn’t want
to be judgmental.
The trouble
with going a little unconscious ourselves is that
it backfires on us.
Ultimately it’s
difficult to have a meaningful relationship, in
any capacity, with someone who isn’t at
our level. You can be buddies, do things with
them, but probably you don’t want to marry
them, be their business partner or best friend.
VARIOUS SCENARIOS
When you’re listening
and observing, what you’ll most likely hear
first is their fear.
Remember in Hawkins’
book fear is at the level of 100, enlightenment
is 1000.
Potential Friend
Let me give you an example.
I know a lovely woman who is ruled by fear. She
is afraid of everything. Everyone is always out
to try to get her.
She’s successful,
smart, fun and attractive but fear based. I choose
not to spend too much time with her because that
fear-based energy is not a match for me. I do,
on a daily basis, send her light and love.
A person’s
God-view (their view of how God is) at the level
of Fear is Punitive and their Life-View (their
view of what life is like) is Frightening,
so the more light they get the better.
Potential Business
Partner
Suppose you meet someone
who is aligned with your values of service, ethics,
creativity and fun. Then you notice they are proud.
Why is that a problem?
Well if the
person is at the Pride level (175) of consciousness
then their God-view is indifferent, their Life-view
is demanding, their Emotion is scorn and their
Process is inflation.
Imagine working day
in and day out with a person whose emotion is
scorn and who thinks of life as demanding, and
who needs to inflate themselves.
Where will the equality
be with that type of person? How about the service
level? Do you think they’ll want to be collaborative?
It won’t
work. Especially if you are past that point on
your journey. They are on their journey and they
deserve to be allowed the dignity of their process.
And you probably don’t want to be their
business partner.
So if you listen to
what they tell you, you will hear where they are
on their consciousness journey and then you can
save yourself a lot of professional and personal
frustration, and possibly, financial problems.
Potential Life
Partner
You’ve met a wonderful
person. For the sake of this example let’s
say a fabulous man. He’s funny, smart, kind,
successful, charming and available.
You have a wonderful
time dating him and you feel good about yourself
when you’re with him.
However, at
times you notice something that makes you flinch
a little, but you look past it. He could be the
perfect partner.
What you’re noticing
is that he is always desiring something -- a new
car, a new jacket, lots of food, se* or sugar.
He’s always buying things.
Yet he’s so wonderful
you just attribute it to his enthusiasm for life.
Here’s the problem
with a person who desires all the time. Desire
is the level of 125. Their God-view is
denying, their Life-View is disappointing, their
Emotion is craving and their Process is enslavement.
OUCH! Run as fast as
you can.
They are always in a
state of craving, being enslaved and will try
to enslave you. Addicts live at this level.
When someone is at the
level of desire they can’t meet you at the
level of unconditional love, joy or peace. So
bless them and move on.
KEEP WORKING
ON YOURSELF
Understanding people’s
levels of consciousness is a useful guide. Next
time we’ll look at what to do if you are
with someone at a different level.
In the meantime, keep
lifting your own level of consciousness. Live
your own life.
Meditate, breathe, go
for walks, play with children, read spiritual
books, go to a yoga class, pray, take a workshop,
do whatever you do that lifts you up.
I know you will
find it helpful to understand where other people
are and to allow them, without judgment, to be
exactly where they are.
Remember, it starts
with listening to what they’re saying without
judgment.
We’ve
all been at the lower levels, so please accept
and embrace your past, and allow others the dignity
of their growth process.
When you do that you
choose to lift yourself even higher, to the levels
of love, joy, peace and finally enlightenment.
YOU CAN LIVE
IN JOY AND PEACE!
Imagine the possibilities
I love you
© Carol Chanel
From Alexa a CIO for
a high-tech firm in Hamburg Germany:
Q: Carol,
I’m limited in growth with my current company
and I’m thinking about starting my own business.
I work with a man who is very smart, ambitious,
and well connected who could be a perfect partner.
However, I’ve
seen him be mean to other people at times. He
yells, is condescending and at times arrogant.
He’s never done it to me and I’m wondering
if this is a potential problem.
A:
Oh Alexa, I’m so glad you are paying attention
to all the behaviors of your colleague before
you go into business with him.
He will at some point
– this is a good bet – act meanly
towards you if you go into business with him.
People, who display
a certain type of behavior and aren’t actively
working on changing, are going to recreate situations
where that behavior will manifest.
Since you paid attention
you have an opportunity to attract the perfect
partner to you. Spend some time writing down the
qualities you want this person to have. Think
of strengths and challenges that you have and
what would compliment them.
Write out what is the
impact you want to have by starting this business.
The impact on yourself, the marketplace and your
customers.
What is the ideal location,
office space, all the details. See it in your
mind.
Then start working with
Wayne Dyer’s book “The Power of Intention”
and set your intention to create exactly what
you want and go for it.
Alexa, you are on your
way. Have fun creating and manifesting!
I work with a brilliant
energy healer who helps to lift your level of
consciousness and remove any energy that you no
longer need. There are only two people who I will
let work with me and he’s one of them.
Sometimes we pick up
energy from other people – that needs to
be removed. And we can always use help lifting
our consciousness levels. Jean Michel will do
both.
Not only is he an amazing
healer, he’s also a kind man, a bright light,
has no judgment and fills you with love and joy.
He lives in France and
he’s coming to LA in October for a few weeks.
He charges $130 U.S.
for an hour and it will be the best $130 U.S.
you ever spent.
If there is any way
you can get to LA or to France to do a session
with him I highly recommend it.
If you have any questions
please email me and I’ll be happy to answer
them.
In the meantime have
fun lifting your consciousness!
I help people get unstuck
and find happiness and fulfillment.
As human beings we sometimes
forget what it feels like to live from our hearts
and souls. We forget the thrill of taking the
brakes off and flying. Life is dull if we just
live from our minds.
People come to me generally
with some issue, some place in their life where
they are stuck, and can't move forward. Usually
they get stuck in their relationships, life purpose
or trying to maintain balance.
Do you know someone
who is settling, for less than exciting, either
in their relationships or career?
Ask them to call me.
They don't have to be stuck! And once they are
unstuck they can fly -- and be wild and free!
I've been helping people
really live and thrive since 1983.
If you would like to
explore working with me, please call me at 310-998-8860.
You can visit my website
at:
http://www.carolchanel.com
You'll find other articles
there and more in-depth information about both
me and my services.
Carol Chanel
Certified Life Coach
http://www.carolchanel.com
mailto: carolchanel@verizon.net
310-998-8860
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